THINK OF ANGER AS ENERGY
The Emotion of Anger
Anger is a healthy, human emotion that varies in intensity from mild irritation to intense fury and rage . When anger gets out of hand it can become destructive and lead to problems. Instinctively one usually responds to anger aggressively. Why is this so? Because as humans we are hard-wired to experience anger as an adaptive response to a real threat. Instinctively anger inspires one to fight and defend one’s self.
Expressing & Suppressing, & Calming
Three ways to manage anger…….
- Expressing angry feelings in an assertive manner is healthy. Expressing anger in an aggressive manner is unhealthy. To be assertive is to make clear what you want, to make clear how to get what you want and to do both without intentionally hurting another person.
So in terms of expressing anger, THINK OF ANGER AS ENERGY imagining the energy of anger entering your body and leaving your body in a normal healthy way.
- Suppressing anger and then converting or redirecting it can be positive because what you do is hold the energy, stop thinking about it and then direct it towards something that is positive. This is very different from holding and harboring the anger which can lead to depression. When it is suppressed and then redirected or converted, we can describe that as constructive behavior.
So in terms of suppressing anger, THINK OF ANGER AS ENERGY imagining the energy of anger to enter your body, have that energy be processed and eventually leaving your body in a normal healthy way.
- Calming is the 3rd way to handle anger. And basically you settle or calm down on the inside. So while the passive aggressive person behaves as if there is no problem, as if there is not any anger, the person who is able to calm down on the inside takes control over the inner responses, takes steps in lowering heart rate and allow the feelings to pass through them.
So, in terms of calming anger, THINK OF ANGER AS ENERGY imagining the energy of anger to enter your body and leaving your body in a normal healthy way.
Intense irritability and excess stress can trigger anger so applying positive self-care can lower the effect.
- Exercise to sweet.
- Talk to the person you are angry with.
- Talk about the anger in an outside support group meeting.
- Seek Professional Help (Life Coach, Counselor, Doctor)
- Write about your feelings of anger when it happens.
- Maintain a daily journal to log experiences and emotions.
- Review past experiences to name positive coping skills that you may have used in the past
- Set aside 15 minutes to write about an emotional problem that has troubled you.